In our socially networked but disconnected age, we find ourselves longing for stronger, deeper connection.
Love Lock, Creating Lasting Connections with the One You Love is perfect for couples who are serious about growing closer – and an essential read for those who want the closeness back. We were created for connection, yet many marriages are coming apart as couples “unfriend” each other long before they head to court. Love Lock couples are looking for ways to connect beyond what they allow people to see on social media. They care about friendship over filters, love over “likes.”
Using the easy, engaging exercises in Love Lock, couples can discover or rediscover the intimacy and deep connection God intended.
Rich Rollins and Marty Trammell have done it again! Writing in the same practical and thoroughly biblical style of Redeeming Relationships, they offer a road-map for young couples just falling in love, hope for couples experiencing fractured relationships, and confidence for couples like Debbie and me (coming up on our 44th anniversary) who are in the latter portion of their married life. Couples who answer the questions together and engage in the activities at the end of each chapter are sure to find immediate benefits.
William J. Katip, Ph.D.
Grace College and Seminary
The title of our book was inspired by the growing romantic trend for couples to fasten padlocks on bridges in Rome and Paris, and the research that suggests millennials and screenagers are searching for more permanent relationships. Although Paris and Rome have imposed fines because their historic bridges are being compromised by the weight of the locks, officials there are still finding it difficult to dissuade couples from the practice. Why? Because hanging locks on a bridge and throwing away the key symbolizes the hope that a stronger, more permanent, and more secure kind of relationship is possible. If it is still true that “what the world needs now is love,” it is certainly this kind. The more Rich and I prayed, the more we realized that the love lock phenomenon also reflects humanity’s deep, universal longing for connection and commitment—for a love that God describes as “stronger than death” (Song of Songs 8:6). This book is our studied response to the needs we’ve observed in our combined sixty years of counseling, and it is our humble attempt to point out the Bible’s answers to the growing loneliness and lack of connection documented in the research journals.
We organized the content into sections that respond to the most common reasons couples self-report for seeking counseling:
● I need to feel understood.
● I need to feel valued.
● I need to feel a part of the one I love.
● I need to feel respected and cherished.
● I need to be able to trust the one I love.
● I need to experience more resolution and less conflict.
As you read through these pages, we believe you will find what others have already found—that we CAN experience a deeper connection, an honest human love that locks on to “the life that is truly life” (I Timothy 6:19).
Rich and Marty